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As we enter 2017 forge ahead in The Way. He has got you, during the darkness. He has got you during the hills and valleys. He has got you in the best of times and in the worst of times. As you see Him and turn your attention to Him the way becomes brighter. The roads may still be bumpy at times but the light will become clearer on The Way.

Happy New Year and forge ahead, along the road we go!

Forge Ahead in 2017

 

Roads fascinate me, because they lead to wherever you intend to end up and they always move you forward. Even if you take a detour, you will eventually end up where you need to be. The interesting thing about the road ahead is that it's been the same road all along. From the beginning of your journey, as a believer, Jesus has been The Way.  

During the holidays my son and I were driving to Arkansas, putting our confidence in the voice of the Australian woman on our GPS attached to my Apple Car Play. We decided to take a different route so that we could avoid traffic. We were relaxed and singing along to some tunes when suddenly the screen in the vehicle went blank and the Australian lady stopped speaking to us. We were on a dark road in east Texas with no electronic voice to tell us which direction to go. I was glad that Ben was at the wheel, because he maintained a level of cool that he gets from his dad. I used my phone to pull up an older version of a map that confirmed that we were on the right road all along and headed in the right direction. We eventually made it to our hotel just as we had expected with no Australian woman to tell us what to do.

How many times do we have it together, do we travel this life relaxed, trusting in an external voice to give us direction? Like an eighteen year old who has always had their parents to tell them what to do and suddenly that voice is silent because they are now on their own. Or those of us who have depended on the voice of a religious leader or a politician whose voice has suddenly become irrelevant on our journey and we find ourselves left to the only way that was ever meant to work. Maybe your GPS wasn't an Australian woman but the perfection of your kids, or the numbers in your bank account and in a moment you and everyone else realize that your kids were never perfect and you are in the red.

Do you freak out? Probably… Lets be honest, when that external voice no longer gives you what you are expecting there is a time of adjustment that requires us to depend on the only way that was every meant to lead us to our destination and that way is Jesus himself. As we turn our attention from what is no longer relevant, we are forced to adjust. At the time, it may seem harsh, devastating and you may even begin to panic, this is normal. All of the external things that we depend on, they will eventually become obsolete and there we will be forced to turn our faith on The Way. He has been there all along, His grace has allowed you to depend on what you know as you grow, until you reach the end of those things and you find yourself on the right road, in the dark at first, but on the right road none the less. As you grow the light will get a little brighter and you will be able to see things clearer and clearer. You will learn to relax in The Way, you will notice that your faith has no greater GPS than The Way.

As we enter 2017 forge ahead in The Way. He has got you, during the darkness. He has got you during the hills and valleys. He has got you in the best of times and in the worst of times. As you see Him and turn your attention to Him the way becomes brighter. The roads may still be bumpy at times but the light will become clearer on The Way.

Happy New Year and forge ahead, along the road we go!

 

Wynema Clark – Founder and Director of New Covenant for Housewives

www.newcovenantforhousewives.com

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Perhaps our focus has been on what can be, what we can get, what will come. When all along our focus should be on what is already in us, in Christ. Take the focus off of what we hope to get, and be thankful for what we already got. Because in Christ is our all, our everything! 

Do we realize who Jesus is? You see, Jesus doesn't hold your answer, Jesus is the answer. Jesus doesn't point you to the way, He alone is the way. Jesus doesn't allow you access to truth, He is truth. This is very difficult for us to wrap our minds around because we are very tangible beings. We have a problem and we want someone to give us the answer so that our problem will go away. If our problem doesn't immediately go away then we suppose the answer was wrong.

In the past I have looked to Jesus to bring me my answer rather than looking at Him as the answer. I have looked to Jesus to be the source that will supply my needs. But recently I realize He didn't say, "I am the source", Jesus described himself as being "the way, the truth and the life" (John 14:6). When we think of Him as the provider of the answer we suppose that there is something else outside of himself that he has to bring to us. We suppose that if we can get Him to, He has the power to provide what we need. So we pray, and we fast and we wait until that manifestation comes. But when we do not get what we ask we experience feelings of confusion, anger, bitterness and even guilt. We try and come up with a reason why. Perhaps I didn't have enough faith, maybe I didn't pray enough or possibly I harbor unforgiveness and that caused my answer to be plugged up in the heavenly pipeline. So we calculate where in the equation we missed it. When the truth is we have the answer within us and His name is Jesus. 

When Jesus got word that the one He loved, Lazarus, was very sick he did not drop everything to relieve the worry, the stress and the pain. In fact he waited until Lazarus was in the grave for four days. Martha's reaction to Jesus was, if you had only been here he would not have died, but I know that God can raise him. Jesus replied to her, "Your brother will rise again," to Martha's, I know that he will some day, another day, the resurrection day. Then Jesus comes back with this..."I am the resurrection and I am the life".  Jesus was saying, "I am now, what you are looking to come later" I am not bringing you life, I am life. Did you know that today, He is still the life. The difference is that He isn't in another town down the road needing to be contacted, He lives inside you. He isn't in a building down the road waiting for you to come to where He is. What you are looking for isn't somewhere to be found, but lives within you. If Mary and Martha had a revelation of exactly who was in their circle of friends they could have relaxed a bit, knowing that they were friends with resurrection and life, so why worry? They were friends with "life", HELLO! 

Perhaps our focus has been on what can be, what we can get, what will come. When all along our focus should be on what is already in us, in Christ. Take the focus off of what we hope to get, and be thankful for what we already got. Because in Christ is our all, our everything! 
(John 14:6, John 11, John 8:58, Galatians 2:20)

© 2016 - Wynema Clark
Founder and Director of New Covenant for Housewives

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I recently posed this question to Andrew Farley and I thought his response was enlightening, I hope it helps you as it did me.

Question About Rest

As someone who came from a charismatic background, this message of the new covenant and the finished work, as I understand it, is something through which we are allowed to function from a position of grace in Christ. It is true freedom and rest, which is such a fresh and obvious truth... during smooth sailing.


The real challenge comes, however, during rough patches. Because it was in those rough patches that we were programmed to work the hardest, pray the longest and really "seek God's face" as if His face isn't on us all the time. It is in the hard times that we were programmed to examine ourselves and see where "we" caused these things or allowed the enemy a foothold. So for those of us in the charismatic mindset, we were taught to push into overdrive. But as I understand the completeness of the work of Christ and the fullness of His life within me the challenge during hard times, is not to go back into overdrive, but to labor to enter into that rest (Heb. 4:11). To some this appears to be laziness and it becomes a scary proposition. We naturally want something to do. My answer to people who ask about this rest is that our job is to just "believe".  Simply believe that God's got it. For example, in relation to a mom who is dealing with a teenager or young adult who is clearly making dangerous decisions, how do I tell this woman to "rest"?

I recently posed this question to Andrew Farley and I thought his response was enlightening, I hope it helps you as it did me:
 

Hi Wynema,
There is not a one-size-fits-all when it comes to God's counsel here. One mother is different from another. One child is different from another. One relationship is different than another. 
God's Spirit lives in us to counsel us toward what HE wants to express in a given situation. Sometimes He might have us intervene. Other times He might have us rest and trust. 
This is why we need to understand that Christ dwells in us and is renewing our minds (our attitudes, our mindsets, our responses). He will guide us in each relationship. Sometimes we rescue our children from sure disaster. Other times, we let them learn and grow and understand consequences.
"But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God...."  (James 1:5).
Jesus Christ has become our wisdom and our discernment. An overall understanding of the Gospel of Grace will help us realize what Rest looks like and that there are times to simply rest and trust. It will also help us realize that Christ lives in us, not to be passive all the time, but to spur us on to good deeds (sound responses) when times arise for action.
Bottom line- we trust the Spirit of God to counsel us in the moment. We can't really teach another person not to panic or teach another person to rest and trust and move by God's leading. We can talk about these things, but these things are learned individually in relationship with God.
Hope this helps...Andrew


It's important to understand that there is no one size fits all.  So listen to the spirit that lives within you and move with that. If you have no direction then rest. If action is needed you will know and then move in that. 
We moms are so emotionally attached to our kids and it can be a roller coaster ride when they become free thinkers. It's a challenge to step back and let them think for themselves. A real practical test of our faith that involves someone very close to us, our own kids.


So moms, resting isn't a lack of action, it's just not us being the savior, it is us listening to the spirit and acting when he leads and resting and trusting when he is quiet. Sometimes he uses us and other times he uses situations or even other people. God's got it, either way!

© 2016 - Wynema Clark
Founder and Director of New Covenant for Housewives

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We've been afraid that if we take away the "you should" that we won't, but when you realize "He did", you naturally will! So relax and focus on Him, He is enough, what He did has got you covered!

No More You Should

In Christian circles I almost always hear that we should be more like Jesus. Be more loving, be more generous, be more, be more, be more. The key words "we should" are red flags to old covenant mentality. How many sermons do you hear that leave you with a mandate, leave you with a motivational tone to, step it up and do more to promote the kingdom? The answer is, way too many! 

Why are the words "we should" red flags to old covenant mentality? Because the old covenant was a contract that God made with the children of Israel that explained to them what they should and should not be doing. If they did good, worked hard, and fulfilled all that he asked of them then God would do his part and bless then. The equation is, you do, and then God will. Sound familiar? This was a virtual failure not on God's part but on the part of the people. The law was too perfect, but humanity was fallen, broken and lifeless. We were incapable of fulfilling all that was written therein, but we just couldn't seem to admit our need for help. Right up to Jesus ministry on earth He kept adding more to the requirements and they kept saying "we can do this" but never could we ever actually do it. Which is the reason He came. We were missing a key ingredient, it's called life.

You see 430 years before the contract God made with Israel he made a covenant with a man named Abraham. This contract was between two immutable things which were, God will make the rule and God will keep the rule and all Abraham had to do was believe. This was the original and binding contract. Abraham was around before there was ever a nation of Israel, before any laws were given on any mountains and any temples were built. This covenant was made between a perfect God and a God who is perfect and given to Abraham and his seed according to simple faith.

Then In the fullness of time God sent forth His son made of a women, made under the law to redeem those who were under the law so that ALL men through Him might believe. So that ALL men could partake of a new creation, a new contract a new deal. Jesus had to put an end to the madness and He did, nailing it the tree. Jesus was the lamb, he was the payment, he was the eternal answer to "you should" when finally and completely He "did!" 

The "you should's" of the old contract were swooped up in the "He did's" of the new contract. Jesus became the final perfect fulfillment that the law required in order for God to bless his people. He made the law, and He (in Christ) fulfilled the law (that was the two immutable things that God could not lie about) he was the guarantor and the guarantee. He was the end of the first and the beginning of the last. 

So that is why "we should" is a red flag, it is ineffective in increasing performance rates in believers. It is no longer "we should" it is now "He already did" and "He is". It is now, what do you believe? 

Can you be blessed even if you do not do, yes! Can you be loved even if you do not do, yes! Can you receive the blessings of Abraham outside of your performance, absolutely! What is the blessing of Abraham? What is the seed of Abraham, His name is Jesus and He lives within you today when you simply but profoundly believe, and within that seed is your answer!

Next time you hear a minister say "you should" just say "no"! Just say, "no"! Because Jesus is the only one who can and He is working in me to will and to do of His good pleasure. Jesus is and has always been the only one who can and He has put his life in you and He will live it through you as only He can, do you believe? 

© 2016 - Wynema Clark
Founder and Director of New Covenant for Housewives

 

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Every retouched photo begins with a imperfect person. Every season has its share of natural disasters. Take heart, on the other side is a break in the clouds, a lesson learned and within it all, God continues His purpose within you.

The Moments of Our Life

 

Our lives are made up of moments. Moments where life seems mundane. Moments when the weather seems just right, and the wind blows in the same direction as the part in your hair. It's these moments when we let our guard down, when I hope we can appreciate the little things. Unfortunately, I think our eyes become a little more focused only after we've been awakened from the darkness or the sun peaks through after storms have blown over.

I am guilty of posting beautiful family moments to social media. I absolutely love my family and as most I want to touch up the hard times in order to appear as perfect as one may want. We are quick to judge the Kardashian's of the world who appear to always post those perfect photos that make us either love them or hate them, but the truth is we all do it .

We just came through one of those moments I mentioned before. Those moments that shake you out of the mundane, that wake you up from your day to day and force you to deal with the need at hand. Those moments that you can't spin into something easy. One of those moments that force you to take drastic measures. Not fun, nothing about it was enduring. I often hear people say, "live in the moment" well this was one of those moments that you don't want to live in, but wait before you judge me. On the other side of that moment my eyes are a little brighter and my perspective a little clearer. For all of you who want details, there is no need for that. I tell you this because every family, every person deals with things. Beautiful celebrities, powerful leaders, Christians with perfect hair and nicely pressed clothes, everyone!  So if you think for a second you're alone, you're not.

Every retouched photo begins with a imperfect person. Every season has its share of natural disasters. Take heart, on the other side is a break in the clouds, a lesson learned, and within it all, God continues His purpose within you. He doesn't leave, he doesn't always fix things in the way we want, but He has given us His strength, His peace, His mind, and His spirit, so you are well equipped. He is the only one who is perfect and His spirit needs no re-touching regardless of our preconceived ideas, have faith in that everyday.

So smell the flowers when they bloom, and recognize the wind when it blows in the direction of your part because those moments add up to a lifetime.

© 2016 - Wynema Clark
Founder and Director of New Covenant for Housewives

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You are valuable and beautiful, young woman. Your shape is unique for the gift of life, and the life only you can bring into this world. You are unique because no one has your view, no one sees through your eyes or walks in your shoes. Your view is necessary for a panoramic expression of God to this world.

An Open Letter to Young Woman

Dear Young Woman,

You are valuable and beautiful, young woman. Your shape is unique for the gift of life, and the life only you can bring into this world. You are unique because no one has your view, no one sees through your eyes or walks in your shoes. Your view is necessary for a panoramic expression of God to this world.

Your body, that beautiful vision you see in the mirror, is simply a house. Who you are runs much, much deeper. It descends to the core of your being where the truth dwells. Truth does not dwell in your body, for your body changes. Truth does not dwell in your mind, although it visits, because emotions and thoughts shift. What is true of you daughter, is buried deep within your being. Those treasures never, ever change, regardless of hormones, good or bad decision making, weight gain, or popularity.

Who you are, young woman, is beloved, valued, righteous, pure, kept, and secure. Watch out for those who seek to dig for the treasure you contain through your body, or by way of tearing down your mind. What is within changes what is seen without. Therefore focus on what is within, water it, dream about it, meditate on it and watch as that life begin to flow out of your feet, and your hands, your eyes, and your mouth. You will be surprised at what comes from you, for it is life from Heaven that waters the earth, it is life from God and it is uniquely you!

Wynema Clark - November 9, 2015

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